Wednesday, October 5, 2011

For Better For Worse?

Have you ever had an ex that pushes so hard to get back with you? I have been split up with my ex for some time now. And everyday he emails, texts, IMs or calls me. He tells me that he loves me and he is working hard so we can be together. He even promises me a ring.

The thing is...I just don't know. He lied to me in the past and I'm afraid this might happen again in the future. I do care for him and I did and maybe still do love him but can I trust him? Should I give him the benefit of the dought? Should I give him another chance?

If I go back to him, this could change my life. It would be a huge step for me. I have been single for 10 years and I'm not sure I have the strength to move forward.

I guess my real question is...Is this really about the lying or is it I am having trouble settling down? Should I take that leap of faith...


  1. I believe that you are the only one who can truly answer that question.

  2. reina--what were the issues that drove you apart? Why do you expect a different ending this time around?

  3. I would like to second lil's comment and NDT's questions... It may be valuable to sit down and write a list of pros and cons for yourself, taking some time to analyze what went wrong and what you would like to be different. Take a look at the things that he did that hurt you - do you expect a different response now? Would you be able to tolerate these things now? Have you noticed any changes in him that would make you believe that he's a new and improved man?

    People can change - it doesn't happen very often- but they can. Once you've taken a look at your list, and you've had a straight conversation (or two or three or more) with him, perhaps you will feel better about whatever decision that you come to.

    Quick question for you - does he know the submissive you? Does he provide you with the dominance that you need? Is this a factor in your decision-making? Just curious!

    I don't think I've been too helpful, as only you can answer this question, but hopefully I've given you some food for thought!

    All my best,
    Baby Girl :)

  4. I agree with Baby Girl . . and would only suggest that if your heart/mind take you down the 'acceptance' path, take it slowly. If it is right, you will know before long . . if not, then you will appreciate the slower approach.
    My thoughts are with you regardless . .