Thursday, July 15, 2010

Are You A Pain Slut?

I know I don’t usually post more then once a day but I just felt like writing and when that happens there is no stopping me….



Last night while I was lying awake in bed, I was thinking why is it that I enjoy pain with my pleasure so much? Most women, myself included if you asked me 5 years ago, would say that I was crazy. That it is abuse. Why would anyone enjoy spankings with canes, belts, floggers, ect?


I have no idea why I like it. I do feel pain like anyone else and when I am beat with something it does hurt like hell but for some reason it makes me so wet, horny, excited… It makes me want to please all the more. Do any of you know the answer to this or is it we should just accept that this is who we are? That there is no real answer, just that is happens.


Below is the definition of BDSM….I didn’t realize there was an actual definition for what we are into.



Distinction between the subdivisions of BDSM

BDSM is a shorthand for the three main subdivisions of the culture: B&D (bondage and discipline), D/s (dominance and submission) and S&M (sadism and masochism).

In its simplest format, sadists desire to inflict suffering and masochists want to receive suffering. The act might be sexual for both, either, or neither. In a particular sub-set of the BDSM culture, submissive personalities who do not enjoy suffering themselves may nevertheless accept suffering play to serve or please their Master or Mistress. Such people are not considered masochist by technical definition. An opposing variation is the person who enjoys the suffering entirely; these people are referred to as "pain sluts" or "suffering sluts".

Similarly, a dominant desires to exercise emotional or relational control over another. A submissive wants to feel such control. Again, there might be a sexual element, or there might not. Such an element is not necessarily mutual.

Bondage and discipline is then perhaps the hardest of the three to define. It usually involves either physical or psychological restraint, formalized service and/or punishment, and sometimes sexual role playing, such as costumes.





2 comments:

  1. Cool. Interesting post. Thanks for sharing. :)

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  2. I luv the way you inspire me to reflect on my own viewpoints of your writings . . this subject will be shared with the rape fantasy question in a more recent blog. I've met two gals in recent years who are not submissive, but who LUV being controlled/dominated in the bedroom. But I admit I am never sure how far to take the 'force' as I am concerned taking things too far will cause a rift in our "friendship". I will add that it turns me on to roleplay this way . . anything but vanilla usually does! lol I can not imagine the benefit of finding someone local to me with your desires/mindset . . how delicious that would be!

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